How Do I Get My Ex Back?

For weeks on end, you have been listening endlessly to "If ever you're in my arms again," while trying to picture your oh - so - sweet reunion with your ex. But a not-so-happy neighbor whose been disturbed by your masochistic music shouts, "Get a life and stop tormenting us with sad and pathetic song!"

To Dustbinland goes your dream of a perfect reconciliation: red and pink roses on your bed, your theme song playing in the background, the two of you slow dancing while whispering forevers and I love yous. What could possibly go wrong? Everything... you're in dreaming, imagining things which wouldn't likely happen for real. Time to wake up my dear.

The best way to deal with this limbo period is "to take time to realize." (Thanks Colbie!) Yes, do sit down in one corner and replay and review the events which led to your current status. A reminder: Do not punish yourself by thinking only of your too - good - to be true moments. Do yourself a favor and allow bad ones to come to mind. Do not block anything out as this may only make you want to lock yourself up in the room and cry until your tears duct run dry. That's not healthy, I am telling you.

But if you think you can not do it alone, go to you friends whom I'm guessing you haven't met with in years due to your hectic "WE" schedule (read: movie date with bf, shopping date with bf, out of town with bf, dinner with bf... all bf!) Go to the spa and treat yourself. Nothing beats having a full body massage and pedicure and manicure with your BFFs. Oops! Make sure that you are doing all these for yourself and not for your ex. Not everything revolves around him-not now, not ever!

When your anger and resentment, even bitterness, have already subsided, then you can resume with your "Taking my Ex back" plan. Call or text him and ask politely if you could meet and talk about things. If at first you don't succeed, let some days pass and then try again. Perhaps, he just needs some more time to deal with his emotions himself. Be calm and relaxed. You don't want him to running out of the caf?� the very second you open your mouth to talk. Don't tread into dangerous grounds just yet. Re - establish your connection and work your way from there. Don't rush things. Enjoy every moment. And if everything falls into its proper place, take the chance, welcome the risks that come with it and get ready for another ride on the love train where you can definite confess: " I want to get my ex back. "